Never appologize for being picky.
You are correct, #5000lbs. Thanks for the correction.
This is being a great and informative topic. I have read a lot of posts about pushing limits, tow ratings, gross versus dry, but never a how-to and TV behavior. Thanks you everyone.
My 4runner has a #5000lb towing capacity, and i love it and wont get rid of it. So our plan is to keep the 3124 light, and load a second car with kids-n-crap. It will keep the whole load well within limits, and it will help with the sanity by putting the kids and a different car! This seems like a win-win to me.