I'm having a little problem understanding why the stated apprehension over owning a TM and then explaining in great detail the vehicle for towing it.
It should be stated that we are happy with our TM 2619 for two adults, used for weekends and an occasional week long trip. It tows like a dream without sway controls behind our Suburban. That is no issue.
However, we have never been MH owners. It seems to me that the culture shock of having to raise and lower a trailer, easy as it might be, every time you went somewhere would be too much different from what you are used to. Have you considered a Travel Trailer? If not, take a look at SunnyBrook which we will probably go to after our TM days are over. With it you might want a sway control and the Hensley Arrow is probably the best.
Dick_B